{"id":4182,"date":"2016-05-27T10:40:54","date_gmt":"2016-05-27T08:40:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/?p=4182"},"modified":"2016-05-27T10:40:54","modified_gmt":"2016-05-27T08:40:54","slug":"liseliyiz-ah-su-gencler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/?p=4182","title":{"rendered":"liseliy\u0130Z: “AH \u015eU GEN\u00c7LER”"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/b>Argasdi’nin 42. say\u0131s\u0131ndaki liseliy\u0130Z<\/strong> sayfam\u0131zdan bir yaz\u0131…<\/em><\/p>\n

“Onur” doyya konulu Argasdi’nizi market, kitap\u00e7\u0131 ve gazete bayilerinden alabilirsiniz.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\"bala<\/a>AH \u015eU GEN\u00c7LER<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bala Kabak\u00e7\u0131<\/p>\n

bala_kabakci@hotmail.com<\/p>\n

Eminim \u015fu anda hepiniz ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n neden \u201cah \u015fu b\u00fcy\u00fckler\u201d de\u011fil de \u201cah \u015fu gen\u00e7ler\u201d oldu\u011funu merak ediyorsunuzdur. Liseliyiz sayfas\u0131nda \u201cah \u015fu gen\u00e7ler ne arar ki?\u201d diye sordu\u011funuzu duyabiliyorum. Neden mi? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ailelerimiz ve e\u011fitim sistemi d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015fka sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z da var. T\u0131pk\u0131 sizlerin, ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun veya bir bebe\u011fin sorunlar\u0131 olabildi\u011fi gibi… Sizler \u201cah \u015fu patronlar\u0131m\u201d, ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131ndaki bir \u00e7ocuk \u201cah \u015fu sivilcem\u201d, bir bebek ise \u201cah \u015fu emzi\u011fim\u201d diyorken, ben de \u201cah \u015fu gen\u00e7ler\u201d demek istiyorum.
\nOkulda veya s\u0131n\u0131fta i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131k, konu\u015fmayan, sessiz bir \u00f6\u011frenciyseniz, elbet birileri sizin dedikodunuzu yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7ok \u015fi\u015fman veya \u00e7ok inceyseniz de dedikodunuz yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Pop\u00fclerseniz kesin yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ama de\u011filseniz de yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Kim oldu\u011funuz, nas\u0131l bir \u00f6\u011frenci oldu\u011funuz fark etmeden herkes, herkes hakk\u0131nda rencide edici bir \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemi\u015f ve dedikodusunu bir \u015fekilde yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Yani hepimiz bir \u015fekilde zorbal\u0131\u011fa u\u011fram\u0131\u015f veya zorbal\u0131k yapm\u0131\u015f olabiliriz. Kendilerini \u00e7ok zeki sananlar, haklar\u0131nda dedikodu yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 veya ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n kendisi hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 marifet zanneder. Kimisi, hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fulmas\u0131yla hi\u00e7 ilgilenmezken, kimisinin i\u00e7inde unutamayaca\u011f\u0131 izler b\u0131rak\u0131r. Her okulun bir zorbas\u0131, tikisi vard\u0131r. Zorbal\u0131k bazen hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmay\u0131 da a\u015fabilir. Okula yeni ba\u015flayanlardan paras\u0131n\u0131 almay\u0131, onlar\u0131 itip kakmay\u0131 hobi edinmi\u015f baz\u0131 tipler vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n i\u00e7 \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ekmeyi, pantolonunu indirmeyi, ayakkab\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 zorla \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 da hobi edinmi\u015f tipcikler vard\u0131r. S\u0131rf o k\u0131z\u0131 sevmedi\u011fi i\u00e7in hakk\u0131nda k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyler s\u00f6yleyen, k\u0131z\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcye \u00e7\u0131karmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 da unutmayal\u0131m… Yani demek istedi\u011fim ve sizlere \u201cah \u015fu gen\u00e7ler\u201di yazma sebebim; okul i\u00e7erisinde birbirimize yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zorbal\u0131klar\u0131n olmas\u0131.<\/b><\/p>\n

Bana g\u00f6re bunun nedeni esas\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclme \u015feklimizden ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Bir yar\u0131\u015f i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclmemiz, s\u00fcrekli birilerini ge\u00e7me ve ezme \u00e7abam\u0131z, bazen zorbal\u0131\u011fa var\u0131yor. Birilerini ge\u00e7erek ve ezerek ba\u015far\u0131ya ula\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6\u011fretiliyor bize. S\u0131navlar bunun en basit \u00f6rneklerinden biri olabilir. Birinci olabilmek i\u00e7in di\u011ferlerini ge\u00e7meniz gerek. Her zaman kendimizi ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslamam\u0131z gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyoruz. \u201cB\u00fcy\u00fck bal\u0131k, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bal\u0131\u011f\u0131 yer\u201d, \u201cBirinci olabilmek i\u00e7in herkesi ge\u00e7melisin\u201d diye s\u00f6zler yank\u0131lan\u0131yor beyinlerimizin i\u00e7inde. Bu y\u00fczden de zeki g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek i\u00e7in s\u0131n\u0131ftakileri a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamam\u0131z, kendimizi g\u00fczel veya yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 hissetmemiz i\u00e7in ba\u015fkalar\u0131na \u00e7irkin dememiz, onlar \u015fi\u015fman veya \u00e7ok s\u0131skaysa ya da sivilceleri varsa alay etmemiz, pop\u00fcler olmak i\u00e7in ise kendimizce ezik birilerine \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck taslay\u0131p zorbal\u0131k yapmam\u0131z gerekiyor ki kendimizi \u00f6n planda tutabilelim. Neden mi? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc okul i\u00e7erisinde veya hayat\u0131m\u0131z boyunca ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 ezip ge\u00e7erek ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olabilece\u011fimize inand\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131k.
\n\u201cBenim \u00e7ocu\u011fum ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmal\u0131\u201d, \u201cKendini \u00f6n planda tutmas\u0131 i\u00e7in bunlar gerekli\u201d, \u201cKendini ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan ayr\u0131 tutmazsa, birileri altta kalmazsa nas\u0131l kendisi y\u00fcksekte olsun ki?\u201d gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen ailelere, bir de \u015f\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerini s\u00f6yleyebilirim; ilk \u00f6nce iyi bir insan olmal\u0131, hak yemeyen, d\u00fcr\u00fcst, yard\u0131msever… Zaten b\u00f6yle biri her zaman ba\u015far\u0131ya ula\u015f\u0131r. Spor yapabilir, sanatla u\u011fra\u015fabilir ve\u00a0 bu \u015fekilde hayat\u0131 daha anlaml\u0131 olur. Ancak arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ezmek, sessiz veya fiziksel olarak farkl\u0131 olan ki\u015filerle dalga ge\u00e7mek kendimizi kan\u0131tlamaya yaramaz, asl\u0131nda kendi eksikli\u011fimiz oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterir. Bu y\u00fczden zorbal\u0131k yapmamal\u0131, yapanlar\u0131 uyarmal\u0131 ve tepki g\u00f6stermeliyiz. Zorbal\u0131\u011fa dur deyip bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce \u015feklinin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7meliyiz ki gelecekteki d\u00fcnyam\u0131z daha g\u00fczel bir yer olabilsin.<\/p>\n

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Argasdi’nin 42. say\u0131s\u0131ndaki liseliy\u0130Z sayfam\u0131zdan bir yaz\u0131… “Onur” doyya konulu Argasdi’nizi market, kitap\u00e7\u0131 ve gazete bayilerinden alabilirsiniz.\u00a0 AH \u015eU GEN\u00c7LER Bala Kabak\u00e7\u0131 bala_kabakci@hotmail.com Eminim \u015fu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4183,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[40,9,1,39],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4182"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4182"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4182\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4186,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4182\/revisions\/4186"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4183"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4182"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4182"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4182"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}