{"id":6298,"date":"2018-09-03T09:35:24","date_gmt":"2018-09-03T07:35:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/?p=6298"},"modified":"2018-09-03T09:35:24","modified_gmt":"2018-09-03T07:35:24","slug":"nenemin-hikayesi-sifa-alcicioglu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/?p=6298","title":{"rendered":"Nenemin Hikayesi – \u015eifa Al\u00e7\u0131c\u0131o\u011flu"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hayatta herkes kendi hikayesini in\u015faa eder. Hikayelerimizdeki kahramanlar bize yol g\u00f6sterir, \u0131\u015f\u0131k tutar, hele bir de ge\u00e7mi\u015fimizi, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc anlat\u0131yorsa o kahramanlar bizi biz yapan en de\u011ferli par\u00e7am\u0131z olurlar. Nenemin hikayesi samimi bir dille torun g\u00f6z\u00fcnden size olanlar\u0131 aktar\u0131yor. K\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc yans\u0131tan, bir\u00e7o\u011fu ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f hikayelerden olu\u015fan ve Argasdi yay\u0131nlar\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kacak “Nenemin Deyi\u015fiynan” <\/em>isimli 4. kitab\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n m\u00fcjdesini de buradan sizlere duyuruyoruz. … <\/em>Kopar\u0131lan k\u00f6klerimizi hat\u0131rlamaya \u015eifa olmas\u0131 dile\u011fiyle… <\/i><\/p>\n

\"33734202_10156612551014170_567419429533515776_n\"<\/a>Do\u011fum ve \u00f6l\u00fcm aras\u0131ndaki her canl\u0131 ya\u015fam denen olguyla tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f demektir. Sosyal bir varl\u0131k olan insan, bu s\u00fcre zarf\u0131nda hem toplumsal hem de bireysel olarak baz\u0131 sorumluluklar kazan\u0131r, ya\u015faman\u0131n, o zahmetli bir o kadar da k\u0131ymetli anlar\u0131n\u0131 hep bir gelecek kayg\u0131s\u0131yla birlikte \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn sonuna dek ta\u015f\u0131r. Insanlar\u0131n hikayeleri de ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar ya da ya\u015fanmam\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar aras\u0131nda kendine bir yol bulur. Ya\u015f ald\u0131k\u00e7a bilgele\u015fir, ustala\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. Bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyunca ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z o kayg\u0131n\u0131n hesab\u0131n\u0131, ancak bildiklerimizi aktard\u0131k\u00e7a, payla\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a ve \u00fcrettik\u00e7e tutabiliriz.<\/p>\n

Bundan birka\u00e7 y\u0131l \u00f6nce, ge\u00e7mi\u015fini ve tarihini merak eden gen\u00e7 bir insan olarak, K\u0131br\u0131s k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcyle ilgili yaz\u0131lar yazman\u0131n gereklili\u011fine inanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. A\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 i\u015fe nereden ba\u015flamam gerekti\u011fini bilemiyordum. Nas\u0131l\u00a0 yaz\u0131lar yaz\u0131lmal\u0131, nas\u0131l ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar yap\u0131lmal\u0131 emin de\u011fildim. Elimdeki tek veri nenemdi. Onun an\u0131lar\u0131, birlikte ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z yani \u00e7ocukken akl\u0131ma kaz\u0131nanlard\u0131. Onunla r\u00f6portajlar yaparak bu sayfa var olmaya ba\u015flad\u0131. Bir g\u00fcn sorular\u0131mdan s\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olacak ki (bu arada soru sormadan cevap vermeyi sevmez nenem) \u201canlat\u0131r\u0131m bunlar\u0131 ama beni da yazacan\u201d demi\u015fti. Tamam dedim ama hi\u00e7bir zaman bu iste\u011fini tam olarak yerine getiremedim. Bir\u00e7ok yaz\u0131da onun an\u0131lar\u0131 olsa da, anlatsam da \u015eifaba\u2019n\u0131n hikayesini, bu yaz\u0131da sadece onu anlatmak, k\u0131sac\u0131k da olsa ya\u015fam denilen bu kavgadaki ac\u0131, tatl\u0131 an\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 paylasmak isterim sizlerle.<\/p>\n

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Neneme sorsan\u0131z ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 bilmez ama resmi bir evrak olan kimli\u011finde 27 Aral\u0131k 1929 yaz\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Ger\u00e7i o hi\u00e7bir zaman 29 do\u011fumlu oldu\u011funu kabullenmez \u201cbeni yanl\u0131\u015f yazd\u0131rd\u0131lar asl\u0131nda 1930 do\u011fumluyum\u201d der. Biz de \u00f6yle kabul edelim. 88 y\u0131l\u0131n bar\u0131nd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00e7o\u011fu bellekten silinmi\u015f o ge\u00e7mi\u015fe, gelin torun penceresinden bakal\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Angastina\u2019da (Aslank\u00f6y) ya\u015fayan K\u0131br\u0131sl\u0131 T\u00fcrklerin, tahminen 1920\u2019li y\u0131llar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda k\u00f6ylerini terk ederek ayn\u0131 b\u00f6lgedeki k\u00f6ylerden Kalava\u00e7 ve Kurumanast\u0131r\u2019a (\u00c7ukurova) g\u00f6\u00e7 ettikleri pek bilinen bir bilgi de\u011fildir. Nenem, annesinin ve ailesinin k\u00f6y\u00fcnden bu \u015fekilde bizim k\u00f6ye ta\u015f\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131r. K\u0131br\u0131sl\u0131 T\u00fcrk biri taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclen bir K\u0131br\u0131sl\u0131 Elenin akrabalar\u0131n\u0131n intikam\u0131ndan korktuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in az say\u0131daki K\u0131br\u0131sl\u0131 T\u00fcrk, k\u00f6ylerini terk eder. Buraya ta\u015f\u0131nan Havva kendinden on-on be\u015f ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck Mehmet\u2019le evlenir ve yedi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olur. \u0130lk iki \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 k\u0131z olur ama d\u00f6nemin \u015fartlar\u0131nda a\u015f\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in k\u00f6ye gelen k\u0131zam\u0131kl\u0131 birisi taraf\u0131ndan k\u0131zam\u0131k bula\u015f\u0131p erken ya\u015fta ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131 yitirirler. Hayatta kalan be\u015f karde\u015fin i\u00e7inde tek k\u0131z olan nenem, babas\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zbebe\u011fiymi\u015f. \u201cA\u011fabiylerim bana bir \u015fey yaparsa ak\u015fama mutlaka daya\u011f\u0131 da yerlerdi\u201d diye anlat\u0131r. Kemerli k\u00f6y evinin tek g\u00f6z odas\u0131nda ge\u00e7er ilk \u00e7ocukluk y\u0131llar\u0131. Ard\u0131ndan nenem okula gider. Gider dediysem sadece bir y\u0131l okula g\u00f6nderilir. K\u00f6ylerde ya\u015fayan \u00e7o\u011fu k\u0131z\u0131n kaderi gibi o da ev i\u015flerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, hayvanlara ve karde\u015flerine bakmak, orak zaman\u0131 ekin bi\u00e7mek gibi nedenlerle okutulmaz. Yine de az da olsa okuyup yazmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir.<\/p>\n

Evlilik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131 geldi\u011fi zaman teyzesinin o\u011flu Mustafa\u2019yla evlenir ve \u015fehere yerle\u015firler. Babam\u0131n gelmesiyle nenemin d\u00fcnyas\u0131 da adeta babam olur. Dedem sirozdan dolay\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde babam hen\u00fcz 5 ya\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r, nenem ise 25\u2026<\/p>\n

Bu y\u0131llardan sonra \u00e7etin bir hayat yar\u0131\u015f\u0131 ba\u015flar yeniden. E\u015finin \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn ard\u0131ndan, babas\u0131 da bu ac\u0131ya dayanamay\u0131p k\u0131sa bir s\u00fcre sonra aralar\u0131ndan ayr\u0131l\u0131nca nenem anas\u0131 ve engelli karde\u015fi \u0130smaille ya\u015famaya devam eder. Bir daha evlenmez, ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 adeta ailesine adar.<\/p>\n

Babam\u0131n tahsil i\u00e7in Ankara\u2019ya gitti\u011fi yetmi\u015fli y\u0131llar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda, Havval\u0131 nene, y\u00fcksek tansiyon nedeniyle fel\u00e7 ge\u00e7irir ve hayat\u0131n\u0131n on \u00fc\u00e7 y\u0131l\u0131 tekerlekli sandalyede ge\u00e7er. Bu hastal\u0131k, insan\u0131n zora d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yapamayaca\u011f\u0131 \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n kan\u0131t\u0131 gibidir. O d\u00f6nem s\u00fcrekli sa\u011fl\u0131k oca\u011f\u0131na gidemeyeceklerinden dolay\u0131 i\u011fne yapmay\u0131 da \u00f6\u011frenir, b\u00f6ylece sadece annesine de\u011fil ad\u0131 gibi k\u00f6yl\u00fclere de \u015fifa olur.<\/p>\n

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Annemle babam 1981\u2019de evlenirler. 83\u2019te de ilk torun ben d\u00fcnyaya gelirim. \u0130\u015fte o y\u0131llardan sonra kemerli tek odal\u0131 evden ayr\u0131l\u0131p bize yerle\u015fir neneci\u011fim. K\u00f6y hayat\u0131n\u0131n t\u00fcm \u00e7etrefilini ya\u015fayan birisi olarak, \u00fcretimden asla kopmaz. Kah s\u0131cac\u0131k norun \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 is kokan kazan\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda hellim yapar, kah maca toplay\u0131p kekik kokulu s\u00fcp\u00fcrgeler… Bayramlarda f\u0131r\u0131na salmak i\u00e7in erkenden kalk\u0131p yo\u011furdu\u011fu hamur, ekmek tahtas\u0131n\u0131n ucundan \u00e7\u00f6rekler, kafesler olarak \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za. Al\u0131\u00e7 zaman\u0131 al\u0131\u00e7 re\u00e7elini, asma zaman\u0131 yalan\u00e7\u0131 dolmay\u0131, \u00fcz\u00fcm zaman\u0131 sucu\u011fu eksik b\u0131rakmazd\u0131 evden. Nenemin elinden her \u015fey tatl\u0131 gelir zaten. Bizi asla mutfa\u011f\u0131na sokmad\u0131. \u201cSen yapaman, i\u015fime kar\u0131\u015fma\u201d s\u00f6zleriyle b\u00fcy\u00fcsek de gizliden gizliye uzand\u0131 ellerimiz oklavalara.<\/p>\n

Her \u00e7ocu\u011fun bir idol\u00fc vard\u0131r. Benimkisi beni her zaman, bazen fazlaca koruyup kollayan nenemdir. 85 ya\u015f\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131k kalp ameliyat\u0131 ge\u00e7irmesine, 88 ya\u015f\u0131nda kaburga kemiklerini k\u0131rmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen yatmay\u0131 reddedip birka\u00e7 haftada ayaklanan o tezcanl\u0131, minicik kad\u0131n\u0131n torunu olmaktan her zaman gurur duyaca\u011f\u0131m. Onun gibi \u00fcretken, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve hayat\u0131 seven kad\u0131nlar olduk\u00e7a s\u0131rt\u0131m\u0131z yere gelmez.<\/p>\n

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Not: Nenemin anlatt\u0131klar\u0131yla yakla\u015f\u0131k alt\u0131 y\u0131ld\u0131r kaleme ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m, K\u0131br\u0131s\u2019\u0131n k\u00fclt\u00fcrel, sosyal ya\u015fam\u0131yla ilgili yaz\u0131lardan olu\u015fan kitab\u0131m\u0131z Sonbaharda Argasdi Yay\u0131nlar\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131karak, okurlarla bulu\u015facak. Kopar\u0131lan k\u00f6klerimizi hat\u0131rlamaya \u015eifa olmas\u0131 dile\u011fiyle\u2026<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hayatta herkes kendi hikayesini in\u015faa eder. Hikayelerimizdeki kahramanlar bize yol g\u00f6sterir, \u0131\u015f\u0131k tutar, hele bir de ge\u00e7mi\u015fimizi, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc anlat\u0131yorsa o kahramanlar bizi biz yapan en<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":6299,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[40,67,44,9,1,39],"tags":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/33734202_10156612551014170_567419429533515776_n.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4eHWX-1DA","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6298"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=6298"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6298\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6300,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6298\/revisions\/6300"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/6299"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=6298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=6298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/baraka.cc\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=6298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}